Hey everyone! Sorry I’ve been sort of MIA (missing in action) lately. As soon as I told a friend one of my goals was to keep up better with the blog, it was like the whole world says “No you don’t”. LOL. I hope this finds you all well and looking forward to at least some part of the holiday season, no matter what it is you celebrate.
Just doing some quick updates here on what’s been going on in my little passive aggressive corner of the world. Rather random, but that’s how life is sometimes. LOL.
For those of you who know my mother is in the hospital, or knew she was, she’s still in there. We’re in month 5 now. We are making definite progress though, so that’s a good thing. It looks like they will be moving her shortly to a convalescent home for more extensive rehab soon. When I went to check out the facility, we talked about what the goals were, etc. regarding my mother’s health. They were all sweet talk and acting like they cared on what I thought about the facility. Come to find out they tell the doctor a whole different story. They should have just told me when I was there! Example #1.
My sister has been to visit “our” mother once since she left to go visit her daughter and their new baby the first week of Aug. I’m not exactly sure what happened, except that while my mother was unconscious in ICU, my sister thought she might die, so she visited. Once my mother looked like she was going to make it, I guess my sister wasn’t interested anymore. She visited one time since my mother has been awake, and I think that was just because she probably had a doctor’s visit next door at the medical center. She hasn’t called for any updates, and I never heard from her at all during Thanksgiving. Oh wait, I think the status “Happy Turkey day to you!!!” on her profile page might have been meant for me. LOL.
I especially love how when I run into her in public, it’s like we’re long-lost friends and she loves me so much, and she’s so happy to see me. When she’s talked to a few friends and one of my children, who happen to be quite loyal to me, she has nothing but the foulest of things to say. If it’s someone she knows is a good friend of mine, she’ll ask them if she’s heard from me. How am I? LOL. Crazy.
Next up. This really falls more into the “If I knew then what I know now” category. Since starting this blog I have learned a lot (thanks to all of you) about Narcissism, Border line personality, etc.
Five yrs. ago I sold my mobile home to a man on an installment contract. I thought at the time it was a “win-win” situation. Boy, did he talk a good game, but I saw some flags. If I hadn’t been so desperate to get out from under the space rent at the time, I probably would have called the whole deal off. Listen to your gut, people!
This guy has turned out to be the most Narcissistic Sociopath I have ever met in my life. Well, excluding the father of my children. For the last 3 yrs. at least, this man has caused me nothing but grief. Our contract is about to come to an end, thank you God.
So part of the reason I haven’t been here so much in the last week or so is because I am having to foreclose on him for non-payment. I can’t afford a lawyer (although I do have the best one for mobile homes for advice) so I’m having to do a lot of research to take care of it myself. Usually when I hit him with a Notice of Default, he then makes a payment. This time he didn’t. He already cost me my home of 17 yrs. by not paying when he knew I needed it the most, but now he’s almost gotten me evicted from where we are renting. Luckily, my landlord has been very patient, and I have been very honest with him about what’s going on. The guy at the mobile home doesn’t realize when I serve him with a Notice of Sale tomorrow, he only has 10 days to fix everything.
It would be one thing if he had a problem with money, the economy, etc., but I know that’s not the case. He does most everything by cash (getting paid) and he always has thousands on hand, plus since we started this contract, I know he’s received some kind of settlement. So we’ll see what happens next. I would be perfectly happy to move back to the mobile and be rid of him forever, but I don’t see that happening quite yet.
A true picture of passive aggressiveness. I went to court today against a credit card company for illegal practices. Now, really, if you look at it, talk about passive aggressive. They offer you credit. Pretend to be your friend if you’re having a problem, and then attack figuring most people won’t fight back because they are so big. Well they were wrong on this Chickie, and I got my day in court today, and won.
This has become so long, I’m skipping the BF tonite. I’m telling you, passive aggressives walk amongst us. LOL
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