The Passive Aggressive Officially Retires

retirementHallelujah! The passive aggressive boyfriend has turned 65 and is able to start collecting Social Security. This definitely takes some of the stress off of both of us. Now I can quit nagging him to look for work and I only have to nag him about doing things around here! LOL.

The PA boyfriend lives his life these days mainly doing crossword puzzles and watching sports. We live in a rented house and there are just a couple of things I’ve asked him to do around here, but I’ve been asking for 2 yrs.! One job, getting rid of the boxes from our move here two years ago, is almost complete. Why am I not in heaven?

One of the things that hasn’t changed is the pathological lying and deception. I just ran across a letter from Social Security that they are going to dock his retirement checks for the money he owes to the VA for medical. I knew he left a big bill the last place we lived, but I have been asking him since his first visit to the VA here for a bill. In the usual passive aggressive way, he kept swearing he hadn’t received one yet. This is why I say that the passive aggressive has moved up to “pathological” liar. Come to find out he’s received a few bills and a couple of letters requesting payment, yet lied straight to my face each time I asked him. There was absolutely no reason for hiding the bills.

The other thing the passive aggressive boyfriend and I are having a tug-of-war about these days is Medicare. Since he has the VA, I don’t know if he needs Medicare medical and drug plan or not. He has Medicare hospitalization, but I don’t know if he needs a supplemental plan. I know with my mother, her Kaiser has been a life saver.

I guess, in all reality, I shouldn’t be bitching. I’m still here, or he is. Nobody to blame but myself for that.  LOL.

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One Response

  1. “I think I get the most bitter about his passive aggressive excuses or not doing something, when it’s something to do with my safety or taking care of me.”

    I just got done saying this exact same thing tonight in the midst of a big argument, about – guess what? Bills that hadn’t been paid and accounting that hadn’t been kept, when there was no reason not to do so. Sounds so familiar!

    But WHY DO I STAY? That’s the real – and ONLY – problem. I KEEP STAYING. No matter how many times I “leave.” I always come back. Sometimes I think it would be easier (and harder) if I really had to leave and didn’t have the option to come back, but he never finds someone else and always waits for me. That’s my problem, in a nutshell. Who else would want me?

    That’s my problem. ME.

    PS: The spammers who post here about “solving your problems by casting spells” etc. never read the comments made in reply. It’s SPAM. Very disheartening to see, isn’t it? If only that kind of stuff worked. If only something worked. How do I change ME?

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