Hey everyone! I’ve missed you. We’ve been moving for the last “forever” and it took awhile for me to get back online. Because of the move is how I came up with the title here “The Passive Aggressive Whipping Boy”.
First of all, let me say that the passive aggressive boyfriend has been a total workhorse through this whole move and been amazing once he got going. We moved everything ourselves with a rented truck out of necessity to keep costs down as low as possible. For an “old man” he does pretty damn good. LOL.
Where I find a problem is when he gets a little tired, I can’t say anything without him coming up with this “I didn’t mean to make you mad” of “I didn’t mean to upset you”.
I’m getting where I hate that! This little wimpy voice, head hung low. Good grief! You’ve been with me for over 10 yrs. and you can’t tell when I’m mad? Trust me, I am not quiet nor demure when I’m pissed. Finally, last night I just said “You know, just because I ask a question about what the plan is or make a remark, doesn’t mean I’m angry and I am really getting tired of you treating me like your my whipping boy or something. You act like I beat you every night”.
Of course by then he gets it that I’m not happy even if I’m not mad, and he wants to be affectionate. Not much, just a little, but more than I’ve had for months. I think maybe just a little too little too late, thanks.
I think the next time he pulls that I’m going to be like that king in one of the old Mel Brookes movies and just wave a white towel ” Oh passive aggressive whipping boy”.
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