A few days ago Peggy asked me in a comment what would be a “deal breaker” for me. This may end up being it. LOL. In the coming days I will be putting the passive aggressive boyfriend’s feet to the fire, so to speak. There can be no excuses, no passive aggressive behavior when it comes to the new project of rebuilding this mobile home. We are going to have to live in it as we rebuild, and you know the saying “If Mama ain’t happy, nobody’s happy.” I cannot live without some of the creature comforts, such as a toilet, etc. LOL.
I have already learned lesson 1 which I should have known to start with, and that is when I find something we need, get it. Don’t talk it over with the passive aggressive. Don’t wait for him to make a decision because by the time he does, what we wanted will be gone. I had a chance twice for laminate flooring for the dining area and kitchen. This is typical passive aggressive behavior. I should have known to just do what needed to be done. See, even I as experienced as I am with passive aggressives, still get caught off guard. LOL.
I was surprised at how much enthusiasm the passive aggressive boyfriend showed for the project. He actually spent time looking for work in the new location, plus planning out what we need and what we need to do. (He’s spent a great deal of his career doing what he calls “staging”) He can actually continue on with the same company he is currently with, it’s just a matter of how much work they can give him. If he can find a new full time job, I’m all for it, but at this point at least he has a job.
I explained to him that we really can’t do anything until I can get the police out there on Monday to write a report. What we can do is pack and collect the materials we will need. The holiday and being a weekend has slowed us down quite a bit, but looking forward to everything being a “go” tomorrow. For today, maybe he can start getting his workbench and stuff packed. Besides being in charge of what I am supposed to be doing, I have to remember the tendencies of the passive aggressive and make sure we keep moving forward.
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