Yes I have more examples of passive aggressive behavior and just how crazy they can make you. LOL.
When the passive aggressive boyfriend went to work with this company, he got 2 company shirts as a “uniform”. It took almost 2 months for him to find out if he wanted any more than 2 we were going to have to buy them. The company doesn’t supply them. It was probably almost 2 weeks ago I told him to go ahead and order 3 more so he has enough for a full work week and I don’t have to do his shirts every 2 days. He was sitting at the computer, told me they take the cost right out of his check, etc. and I thought he ordered them. I even asked him how long they said it would take to get them. He answered he didn’t remember and I let it go.
Along around this same time, he decided he wanted to have his checks direct deposited into our account instead of receiving his check on a paycard (like an ATM card) like he gets it now. I just asked him a few days ago if he ever took care of that and he told me he hadn’t yet.
Now this is a prime example of passive aggressive behavior when it comes to how they handle responsibility. I usually preach here about approaching the passive aggressive head on, but calmly and matter-of-factly. Well, I have to confess even my coping skills are not all they should be when it comes to coping with a passive aggressive.
Yesterday I just happened to ask the passive aggressive if he had heard anything about the shirts yet. How much longer is the wait? He sort of chuckles and says “I haven’t ordered them yet”. I blew. Every two days I’m having to wash his two crummy shirts mind you, and now he says he never ordered any more. I’ll tell you, it didn’t take him 15 minutes to have the shirts ordered and the direct deposit stuff done, and I told him he could worry about his own shirts since he didn’t find it important enough to take care of. Not only did he get this stuff done, but he called and made an appointment with his barber because I had mentioned a haircut a day or so ago. Usually it takes me asking him 2 or 3 times if he called the barber.
I swear, once again just like having another son. I shouldn’t have to nag, shouldn’t have to get upset for something to get taken care of, but sometimes that’s what it takes I guess. Usually I do try to handle things calmly. I do believe you get further that way most of the time, but these shirts have been such a pain in my butt, I guess I just couldn’t contain myself. LOL. More examples of passive aggressive behavior to come, I’m sure.
If you’d like to go ahead and leave a couple examples of your own, the things that drive you crazy, feel free to comment below.
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