Training a passive aggressive spouse or partner like a wild animal I must say is an interesting concept. I was reading a blog post over on Passive Aggressive Husband written by an animal trainer. She says by using the same steps she uses to train dolphins we may be able to train our passive aggressive spouses or partner and she outlines a few basic steps.
It’s pretty rudimentary. As we’ve talked about here, the first step and often the hardest is to start detaching yourself from the relationship. She the goes on to talk about ignoring bad behavior and reinforcing good behavior, like you would a child. As she puts it, if you’ve tried everything else and can’t find anything that works, why not give it a try?
Actually this isn’t an entirely new concept, and not just used on passive aggressive spouses. In 1962 (I know, a lot of you may not be that old. LOL) Sandra Dee and Bobby Darin made a movie titled “If A Man Answers”. It’s a delightful movie about a young bride trying to get her model photographing husband’s attention. Her mother, very sophisticated in the ways of love, introduces her to a book titled “How To Train Man’s Best Friend” or “How To Train Your Pet”, something like that. The story is all about Sandra Dee taking the lessons from this dog training book to train her husband and of course it works, until he finds the book. LOL. It really is a cute film if you can find it anywhere and who knows, you may pick up a few pointers.
If you’d like to read the whole article just click on the link above. If you have any comments on what has worked for you, or if you have some “dog training” tips of your own, please share them below with the rest of us.
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