First, I want to let everyone know we have finally found a new home. Yeah! Thank you to so many of my friends here that have been with me the last few months and offered such wonderful words of encouragement and prayers. This Monday is move-in day. I may be down for a few days at the beginning of the week while we’re moving our stuff in out of 3 different storages, and I’m getting my internet hooked up, but I’ll be back! LOL. Boy, if anyone really wants to know about passive aggressive behavior and tendencies, try living in one small hotel room with a passive aggressive for four months. And he still lives! Score! LOL.
This is probably happening just in the nick of time too. The room we’re in has one of those super efficient toilets that would suck your a** off if you were sitting on it when you flushed. You barely have to touch the handle and it sounds like a jet taking off. Lately the passive aggressive BF has been under some strain since I told him this problem of not having a place to live wasn’t just my problem. One of the results has been he pushes the handle on the toilet so hard that it runs continuously, or no water and it won’t flush at all unless you take the lid off of the tank and jiggle the hardware inside. I mentioned to him that he was doing it again, (he went through this phase once already) so his answer to me was he didn’t flush at all. Of course we all know how it goes when I mentioned it to him. The look that says he could swear he flushed it, then the headdrop that says “I’m such an idiot”. He was also shocked to find out he leaves the seat up a lot more often than he thought. LOL.
One of the things I do to relax sometimes is crossword puzzles. You can’t really be thinking of any thing else but the words and the clues. I started doing them in the paper we get here. I got to do the first couple, and now the BF has become addicted. If we go somewhere and he hasn’t finished one, he takes it in the car. Normally that would be fine, except he’s supposed to be looking for “for Rent” signs and writing down phone numbers. He’s also supposed to be helping me read street signs when we’re going somewhere unfamiliar as it’s pretty hard for me to drive and watch his side of the street for signs at the same time. We were on our way to sign the lease for our new home when I finally told him I was going to start ripping the newspapers up. We had to be there by a certain time and I had inadvertently passed a street I should have turned on. He threw the paper up on the dashboard in a little tantrum. That’s when I informed him our being homeless was not just my problem.
All of this is typical passive aggressive behavior. They completely disconnect. When we first got together he informed me he made decisions at work all day, he didn’t want to make them at home. I could understand that, but I didn’t know it meant forever, any decisions, even the years he’s been out of work.
We all get into a relationship like a partnership. We have these dreams that the two of us are aligned, we’ll never be alone again, and we will build a life together. Some how a wire gets crossed when you’re with a passive aggressive and you find yourself alone even when you’re with someone.
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