I’ve posted 100 blog posts on here now. I’d like to thank all of you who look on from whatever your point of interest, and thank you all so much for your contributions both to my life and this blog with your comments.
What’s Going On With Us Lately-
We’re still in a motel. We can’t really rent or buy anywhere as I’m in the process of foreclosing on a mobilehome I sold on an installment sale. Part of our problems as far as money goes is this jerk has quit making his payments, which was a substantial part of our income. I can’t commit to anywhere else until I know if I’m going to get the mobile back, so we are stuck. It’s nice having maid service, but it doesn’t come cheap!
The passive aggressive BF is still not working, which I guess would be ok considering he’s making more per hour on unemployment than he would at some of the jobs he could get, but unemployment benefits don’t last forever. There is a program for getting rehabbed for “green jobs” that would run his unemployment during the time he was training, but I have to be like his Mama and remind him every week he needs to do something. The passive aggressive personality definitely rears it’s ugly head. I shouldn’t have to take that on as well as everything else. I’m afraid I do find myself getting a bit resentful. I sure miss the days when the man felt like he had to provide and take care of me. LOL.
Another turn of events, my son has moved down with his sister and cousin, and started a new life for himself. He was devestated when he and his girlfriend split, altho he knew they could never stay together. He has already started working out in the gym every day, doing a little swimming, and invited Jesus into his heart. Just leaving town was a huge step for him, but even he realized there was nothing left for him here. His friends are either in jail, been in jail and out a few times, or well on their way down that path. It was only a matter of time for him. I feel so blessed that my niece and her husband have opened their arms and their home to him. My middle daughter has been down there since last January and is such a happier human being now.
I heard from my almost step-son the other day, my BF’s youngest. He’s definitely the drama queen of the family, but I can’t say I hardly blame him. Last in a line of 3 boys, I’m sure he feels he has to be that way to get attention. It hasn’t quite hit him in the head yet that it is having an opposite affect. The more this boy reaches out to his father hoping to get some help with his problems, the more his passive aggressive father withdraws.
The boy has a tendency to call me when he can’t reach his Dad. After I spoke with the boy I asked the passive aggressive BF what advice he had given. It turns out, the BF never even answered this kid’s call. I wanted so badly to just scream at him “why don’t you just tell your son you cannot offer emotional support to anyone, including him?”
I tried to explain to the boy before that his father is emotionally disconnected and why, but he doesn’t think I know his father as well as he does and refused to listen. So he continues to bang his head against the brick wall, poor thing. He says he has a hard time with emotions now and claims to be just like his father. For his sake I hope that’s not true.
I miss hearing about what’s going on with you all now. I need to make myself write here more often as it helps me to be able to get a lot of this off my chest. I need your comments which help to give me strength knowing none of us is going through this alone.
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