You might get a new hair-do; rearrange the furniture the way you want it; take a trip to someplace you always wanted to visit; go to see a special movie or any number of other things. The important thing is that you do something that makes you feel good.
From there, comes the introspection of where you are, and what you’re going to have to do in order to survive. Plan it all out on paper, and then do what you have to do in order to make it come out as you’ve planned. When you write everything out in your own hand, it’s a giant step to getting there. The connection between your handwriting and your subconscious has been made. Did you know there is a phenomenal difference between people who achieve their goals when they write them down vs. people who don’t write them?
Most important – don’t be afraid of making mistakes or of ‘falling down” once or twice along the way. It’s just as if you were seventeen years old again, and just beginning a life of your own. It’s like when a baby learns to walk – he’s going to stumble or fall a couple of times, but by continuing to try, he eventually not only walks but finds he can run as well. So it is in rebuilding your life with or without the Passive Aggressive partner or spouse.
It’ll be hard, but the sooner you start, the easier it’ll be for you to regain your emotional well being. At first, even though you have to force yourself, you should just go out and associate with other people. See for yourself that other people don’t “immediately recognize you” as a loser, or a failure. Remember how much fun it is to be among people that actually make you feel liked and respected.
Homework (LOL) Do one thing today just for you that makes you feel good no matter what anyone else thinks. Would love to hear about what you did below.
Update: I have no idea why wordpress isn’t spacing this the way I want. Sorry if it’s hard to read.
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