I am a recovering procrastinator.
While it is normal for people to procrastinate to some degree, it becomes a problem when it impedes normal functioning. Chronic procrastination may be a sign of an underlying psychological or physiological disorder.
It was the quote above that made me start to wonder how passive aggressive I am. As I research through all the articles and info, I find that procrastination is just one of many symptoms of a passive aggressive. What I was having a problem with was figuring out the difference between a passive aggressive and a procrastinator. Evidently a passive aggressive thinks a deadline is for everyone else but him. A procrastinator like myself recognizes deadlines, but puts off a project to the last minute and then rushes to meet it. Either one is not good. LOL.
“Lulled by a false sense of security, time passes. At some point, he crosses over an imaginary starting time and suddenly realizes, “Oh no! – I am not in control! There isn’t enough time!”
Procrastination is only remotely related to time management, (procrastinators often know exactly what they should be doing, even if they cannot do it), which is why very detailed schedules usually are no help. I’m hoping to prove to myself that I am an exception to this rule. I have started a new planning device online, and so far it does seem to help, especially if I actually look at it and use it.
Another thing that has me paranoid about being a passive aggressive myself is the desire to leave notes. One of my favorite sites is PassiveAggressiveNotes.com. Since I started reading it, I’m afraid to leave a note anywhere! As I wrote in my post “Is It Passive Aggression or Communication?” I don’t know how else to communicate when you’ve mentioned the same thing over and over again.
I just paid my son to come over and clean the microwave. It was so bad it was terribly inefficient because while it’s cooking what I want, it’s cooking all the other junk all over it. He did a beautiful job. It looks good as new. In the past when I have taken my own time to clean it I have asked and asked people (my mother) to clean up anything they splash or spill in it, to no avail. Of course, according to my mother, the other PA in our house besides my BF, she never does anything just gets blamed for everything, so none of it was her. My middle daughter who still lives with us is just oblivious. She moves like a tornado destroying everything in her path and has no idea that she has left liquid from her cup of noodles on the microwave tray or knocked the pictures down from the wall in the hallway as she passes.
It was actually my son who suggested I post a note above the micro to remind people to clean up their messes. I think it’s a great idea, but is my note going to show up someday on passiveaggressivenotes.com for every one to make fun of? I guess it could be worse. I could be a “stalker” and lurk around the microwave to jump on anyone who offends. LOL
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