Yes, there are “catch phrases” that seem to be inherent in most passive aggressives. Sometimes I think I’ll scream if I hear one more time “I’m such an idiot” with head hung low. Lately I just say “Yeah, you are.”
Prime example. I think I mentioned we were down to one car because the other had broken down and it was going to cost about $400 just for parts. Before that car broke down I had mentioned about how low it was in the back and how it seemed to be coming up off the ground in the front, you know, like when something is heavily overloaded. The passive aggressive pretty much ignored me. When he finally said the car was broken down, it was because of a leak in the air bag in the rear.
Evidently I wasn’t the only one that mentioned how low the back end was. His son also had asked him what he was carrying that was so heavy in the trunk. The passive aggressive ignored him also.
We’re moving today, and so yesterday I asked him how he planned on moving that car or I was calling someone to pay us $100 and haul it away. In order to do that we had to empty the vehicle and get all of his tools, etc. out of it. Once we did that, miracle of miracles, the car’s just fine. LOL. He drove it to our new place without any problem at all! Come to find out he had approx. 200lbs. of tools in the trunk that consistently sat on the airbag until it just couldn’t take it anymore. Even having the car unusable was better than taking my suggestion that there was too much stuff in the trunk and removing some of it. We’ve been with only one car now for a couple of months.
And what did he say after his son and I reminded him that both of us tried to tell him? “I’m such an idiot. Don’t make me feel more embarrassed than I already am.” Hey Baby, you should be embarrassed! LOL, and I should be really pissed! Instead it’s just another prime example of passive aggressive behavior.
The other “catch phrase” that the passive aggressive boyfriend uses to get out of stuff, and this one also drives me crazy is “How do I do that? I’ve just never done that before.” This one is used for even the simplest of tasks. Just because you “never have” doesn’t mean “you can’t” is what I respond with now.
What kind of passive aggressive catch phrases do you get? Does this sound familiar?
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