Tonite is a typical example of passive aggressive behavior at it’s best. LOL.
The passive aggressive BF has offered to go to the store for me tonight because he knows I absolutely hate the heat (93 degrees) and he takes it a lot better than I do. He’s very thoughtful that way at times. Besides what he was going for, I had a couple coupons for a couple things I wanted to pick up at the same time. One being a coupon for what we’re going to have for dinner. Everything I wanted is at the same store. No extra trips anywhere. There were 3 items, all of which he’s familiar with.
First I get the “look”, then the sigh, then the different “look”. I tell him it should be fine, it’s cooled off, really I can go to the store. He gives me one of these “Oh pishod. It’s no problem. I’ll be right back.”
I tell him that I figured he wouldn’t go through all of the above if it wasn’t a problem. Because I called him out on his behavior, he wasn’t sure how to respond, so he stood staring at the cat for a minute, kissed me goodbye and left. After all this time he knows it doesn’t do any good any more to deny he made the faces, etc. so he just kind of lapses into silence. Passive aggressive behavior to the letter. LOL.
We’re still house hunting, although today we did put in an offer on a mobile home. The yard is nice and small so I don’t have to worry much about yard work. I was really leaning toward renting this rather crappy house in a good neighborhood (and we could still end up there), but the yard, front and back, goes on forever it seems. Even though I have asked the passive aggressive BF half a dozen times if he would really take care of the yard, any body who has been with a passive aggressive knows what they say and what they do are two different things.
Also the bathrooms in this house would have to be painted. Once again he says he figures it would only take a day to do each bathroom. Now I know if I really wanted them done, I could do them, but I would rather be working. (Something about the need for money to be coming in. lol). All I can think about is all the paint I bought just to do the trim on the last house and it sat there for 8 years. I don’t think I want to go through that again.
All I can think of is that house will just turn me back into the nag that I haven’t (much) had to be for the last few months. What really bugs me is I would only have myself to blame!
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